Why do people plan things in advance?...it boggles my mind these days. I guess Father's Day is coming up and I've been approached on what my plans are. I would love to have a game plan. I spoke with my sister Debbie this evening. She told me to do whatever Ben and I wanted ..make a new tradition.
I guess Ben and I do belong to the same club now...we've both lost our fathers. That hadn't dawned on me. I was 16, Ben just 10.
Jack's parents called this evening, wanting us to go to Ft. Dodge to spend the day with Laura and family. She is Jack's sister. Ben just wants to stay put...come to find out Ben made the 10U All-Star baseball team and our 1st practice is on Sunday. After that, who knows what we'll do.
Jack and Ben were best friends, I've got to honor that somehow, yet the guilt for his parents drape me like a overgrown vine. What should I do?
That is a difficult decision. Congratulations to Ben for making All-Starts...it is quite an achievement. As to what Father's Day will now mean to you, I guess my best advice would be to do what Jack would want you to do. I have no doubts that he is smiling down on Ben's achievement. I am sure he is quite proud.
ReplyDeleteIn speaking with people who have had the loss of a husband and the loss of a child, they are two different things. I cannot comprehend what it would be like to lose Kyle, but I will say that the loss of a child scares me even more. Maybe their way of keeping Jack close is seeing you and Ben.
On a side note...did the coaches forget it was Father's Day? If so, I have a feeling the practice will change before Sunday! ;-)