...it's all about family and friends

My mom gave me advice, right after Jack died, to not make any big decisions until after a year. I heed her words, only because she has walked the same walk. Last night, we spoke about a burial  time for Jack's remains, which are kept in a vault. I keep a smaller sealed container in my dining room hutch, for Ben & I to have closure. I don't understand what the rush is...I want to be lucid. I barely remember his service.

We spoke about Memorial Day week-end, she would be in town. I thought that was perfect.

I also spoke with my mother-in-law this evening. I love her so much...and I get her grief. When I told her about Jack's burial, she almost snapped at me...why are you waiting so long. I told her as hard as it is to lose a son, I lost my husband and the father of my son.We both cried, but she said she would support my decison. I need more business closure before that time...our tax extension is almost due...a bit preoccupied, trying to survive.

I may accidentally repost things..not on purpose.

My friend, Diana, has taken alot of my thank-you notes back to Chicago with her...writing them for me.
My sis, Pam. came up with a perfect template. I think I posted this once before...but it should be said again, because of the beauty of my people..friends and family.

"Sun follows rain, strenght follows pain, we will find a way."
Love, Barb and Ben